How to Be Alone

How to Be Alone Learn how to enjoy solitude and find happiness without othersOur fast paced society does not approve of solitude being alone is literally anti social and some even find it sinister Why is this so when

  • Title: How to Be Alone
  • Author: Sara Maitland
  • ISBN: 9781250059024
  • Page: 412
  • Format: Paperback
  • Learn how to enjoy solitude and find happiness without othersOur fast paced society does not approve of solitude being alone is literally anti social and some even find it sinister Why is this so when autonomy, personal freedom and individualism are highly prized than ever before Sara Maitland answers this question by exploring changing attitudes throughout histor Learn how to enjoy solitude and find happiness without othersOur fast paced society does not approve of solitude being alone is literally anti social and some even find it sinister Why is this so when autonomy, personal freedom and individualism are highly prized than ever before Sara Maitland answers this question by exploring changing attitudes throughout history Offering experiments and strategies for overturning our fear of solitude, she to helps us to practise it without anxiety and encourages us to see the benefits of spending time by ourselves, By indulging in the experience of being alone, we can be inspired to find our own rewards and ultimately lead enriched, fuller lives From panmacmillan book sara

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    1. Sara Maitland

      Sara Maitland is a British writer and academic An accomplished novelist, she is also known for her short stories Her work has a magic realist tendency Maitland is regarded as one of those at the vanguard of the 1970s feminist movement, and is often described as a feminist writer She is a Roman Catholic, and religion is another theme in much of her work.


    1. I went alone to a restaurant today. Not gonna lie, it took some talking into. I'm the sort of person who loves food and loves trying things out, yet between making something myself and going to a restaurant, I usually choose the former. It's not so much a money issue as it is a company issue. For whatever reason, I'd convinced myself that I'd feel weird sitting there alone, waiting for my food. (And I'm not talking about McDonald's here.)However, I had saved money from a taxi the night before (n [...]

    2. Interesting, but hardly mind-blowing. The book spends equal amounts of time justifying the desire to be alone, explaining how being alone requires effort, and making book recommendations that have to do with loneliness. There is less on the habits that make being alone easier, and more in the way of trying to change the reader's mind on being alone.

    3. This is part of a School of Life series that turns the “how-to” concept on its head: instead of areas where we think we need instruction, the books are about areas where we feel like experts, topics so simple or automatic they don’t seem to need explanation (e.g. How to Be Bored, or How to Age).Maitland argues that although being alone is easy to achieve, there is an art to doing it properly, and solitude and loneliness are by no means the same thing. She knows whereof she speaks: though s [...]

    4. I was rather disappointed with this book. Maitland seems to be assuming that for nearly everybody being placed in the position of solitude or alone, this was something that they didn't want. So she spends a lot of the book trying to persuade people that maybe it is okay to have some solitude. Well I know this! I far preferred the book Solitude: A Philosophical Encounter by Philip Koch.

    5. Bit of a strange, defensive read this one. I'd have preferred it if the author had assumed a friendlier reception on the part of the reader towards solitude - I didn't feel it would convert readers with no urge for it in any sense by virtue of its continued assertions that the need to be alone is culturally mistrusted. And always has been. Additionally I don't entirely believe the argument that solitude alone sparks creativity or helps one get a better sense of nature. Albeit as someone who gets [...]

    6. Onlangs zag ik Sara Maitland op TV in het programma "Wanderlust" en ik voelde een enorme sympathie voor haar, een sympathie die ik niet voelde na het lezen van haar "a book of silence". Maar ineens begreep en herkende ik haar behoefte aan alleen zijn.Ook ik heb die, en het is die behoefte die maakt dat ik altijd alleen ga stappen, soms dagen aan een stuk. Ik wou weten van waar deze nood komt, en of het bij haar of anderen ook zo is, en of daar soms ook het spook van de eenzaamheid om de hoek loe [...]

    7. چگونه از تنهایی لذت ببریم اثر خانم سارا میتلند و ترجمه خانم سما قرایی -از سری کتاب های «مدرسه زندگی»- کتابی است در باب تنهایی که بیشتر پیشینه نگرش مردم نسبت به تنهایی را بررسی می کند. بر خلاف دیگر کتاب های راهنما و self-help، این کتاب ابتدا همه مسائل منفی را از سر راه بر می دارد سپس ا [...]

    8. There were both fascinating and unsurprising parts of this book. It just so happens that the fascinating parts derive not from Maitland's prose but by the considerable amount of excerpts she used between original writing. I can say that this was a book that produced a strong desire in me to read more from all the authors that seem to have inspired her.

    9. The title should be less "How to Be Alone" and more "Why Enjoying Being Alone Doesn't Make You a Psycho." Heavy on philosophy and historical examples and literary references. Light on practical advice. Geared more toward people who find themselves alone and don't like it, or people who are perplexed by a friend or loved one who enjoys solitude.

    10. This is one of the most interesting books I've ever read. It debunks the myths that solitude is not "natural" , or that people who like to be alone are bad ,mad or sad. It claims that solitude is very healthy activity increases creativity, make people more peaceful and attuned to nature , make our relationship with god stronger and make us able to think clearly and discover ourselves.

    11. عنوان و محتوا کمی به زردی می زند اگر نمیخوندم هم اتفاق خاصی نمی افتادفقط خدا رو شکر همش رو یا توی مترو خوندم یا سرکلاس

    12. The first half is an insightful look onto why society has come to rebuke lonesomeness. The other half is a handbook on how to overcome the pre-programmed cognition of being alone. While I agree with most of it, there were also a couple of points in the second half of the book there that I did not agree with or that I found troublesome to hear. Perhaps it's because it was written at a time where you could get away with saying such things unlike now where one has to always be politically correct ( [...]

    13. "Think about it for a moment. It is truly very odd.…We live in a society which sees high self-esteem as a proof of well-being, but we do not want to be intimate with this admirable and desirable person.We see moral and social conventions as inhibitions on our personal freedoms, and yet we are frightened of anyone who goes away from the crowd and develops ‘eccentric’ habits.…We think we are unique, special and deserving of happiness, but we are terrified of being alone.” p. 20I don’t [...]

    14. This is the kind of book that looks for you, finds you and makes itself available tangibly to you at the perfect time in your life. I am convinced of it. Your first response to the title may well be, "but I don't want to be alone!" Or it could be, "what kind of book tells you HOW to be alone?" I assure you, your questions will be sated within pages of the introduction. Sara Maitland has a gift of being spot on. On the bean. Bullseye. She reads you so keenly that you will squirm. And the only way [...]

    15. 3.5 StarsFound about the book from The School of Life's Youtube channel.The problem of such books is that they try to elaborate on one precise topic and end up circling around one Idea in a boring and repetitive way, I personally enjoy learning by living the experience through narrated story, and I can say that I had more appreciation for solitude after reading "The Wind-up bird chronicles" and "The metamorphosis" than reading this book, however it wasn't that bad, in fact it had some solid poin [...]

    16. Insightful and poignant look at solitude and its benefits. I found it inspiring even if all the situations described don't apply to my life or surroundings. It fits well with this entire series of books in building a framework for each aspect of a balanced and whole life, encouraging analysis, reflection, and self-understanding.Hat tip: Alister.

    17. Especialmente interessante por falar primeiro sobre os desafios de estar só e as situações em que acabamos nos encontrando sozinhos. Aborda a pressão social de "estar junto", mas da metade pro fim foca nas vantagens, nas melhores práticas pra estar só e o quanto a solidão não precisa ser entristecedora. Recomendo pra quem quer, precisa ou vai ficar solo por algum tempo.

    18. I always try to embrace solitude in my whole (newly adult) life. I believe everyone born alone and die alone.I often walking alone, go to the cinema alone, even eat in public alone and never really bothered by that. But, I also don't really romanticize the solitude and I feel that Sara tried so hard to persuade that somehow being alone is better. I don't enjoy sugarcoat and romanticism about everything, really. Her perspectives are quite strong and hard to object. There are plenty of quotations [...]

    19. Picked this one up at the library -- it was sitting at the checkout counter when I got there, and since I already had "how to be happy" (which was excellent,go read it) in my hands, I guess I figured this dovetailed in some way. Worst case, I hoped this might help me find some new ways to carve out alone time (driving down the toll road doesn't count thanks) and maybe be a bit more Centered? Clearer? Anyhow. Maitland is a woman who, after living a good portion of her life surrounded by a large g [...]

    20. A disappointing read. It may be just that I'm too comfortable with solitude to appreciate this book - like someone in grad school reading a nursery primer - but Sara Maitland's book struck me as both saying too little and too much. On the one hand, I found Ms. Maitland's obsession with justifying one's own solitude to other people bizarre and misguided - surely the first step to being alone is learning not to care what other people think of you. Moreover, Ms. Maitland seems confused about what s [...]

    21. First of all, I find the title of the book a bit misleading (whilst knowing it's a part of the School of Life series 'How to'). This book is more propaganda for solitude than a (so to say) self help book on How To Be Alone per se.The best part of the book for me is when it offers insight in the way that our thinking on being alone has grown in a historical sense. The list of further reading in the end I skipped, but it might me nice for those searching for ways to be alone and able to enjoy it. [...]

    22. This book gave me the opportunity to think harder about solitude -- to settle deeper into the luxury of it. This made it worth reading, though the writing itself didn't particularly astonish me.This book also gave me another Kafka quote on writing (from a letter to his fiance Felice Bauer):You say you would like to sit beside me while I write. Listen, in that case I could not write at all. For writing means revealing oneself to excess, that utmost of self-revelation and surrender . . . that is w [...]

    23. What I liked best of all--Maitland's description of her own solitary lifestyle, the reasons she's chosen it and the benefits she draws from it--was a small part of this short book. The rest is very basic, for those who spend very little time alone, which does not apply to me. However, this is a good jumping off point, with many worthwhile references and recommendations.

    24. More of an elongated magazine article than a book And - strangely, but true to the title and to the series of which it is part - it is a "how to" book. It really does purport to make helpful, practical suggestions for being by oneselfI'm not sure who this book is aimed at. Extroverts who have decided to try solitude but just can't seem to get the hang of it?

    25. Short, simple, but quite profound: I read this a few months ago, and it's stuck with me. I enjoy solitude, and doing things on my own, but usually feel vaguely guilty about it. This book explores the 'why' behind that guilt, and why it's not necessary, and how to embrace and thrive on voluntary solitude.

    26. To be honest, she had spent most of the pages justifying why it's okay to be alone. See, I already know that. I want to know how to be alone because I know it's okay to be alone and want to enjoy it more.

    27. People knows me might be surprised why I picked up this book to read? Well, I didn't, as this is a book from one of my book clubs.The book is in the publication list from "The School of Life", an organization is dictated to exploring life's big question - how can we fulfill our potential?. And this book is something supposed to "guarantee" to stimulate, provoke, nourish and console readers about that question.I did agree a lot from this book (see my extracts from the book at the end of my postin [...]

    28. It was an interesting read, however, I felt it lacked deeper insights from the author's perspective. Excerpts from others' work appeared to be the most intriguing and thoughtful bits of the book, fueling the philosophical monologue that the book set out to achieve. Would recommend it anyways :)

    29. Very clear insightful book about being alone, often considered a negative thing in western culture. Maitland gives a structured refutal of all of the arguments against being alone. I would have liked a part about being alone and self love.

    30. Despite the best intentions, this book reads like a justification for being alone, something that doesn't interest me at all right now. Walden is a better alternative any day.

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